Borrowing from a concept in marketing, people tend to best respond to aphorisms or ‘key messages’ that sound self evident and robust to better help relate to the individual and describe a path to a better outcome. Each key message is supported by bullets that are talking points that directly support the key message. The following are intended to support a teen through the difficulties they experience. Stress the truth of the bolded lines over and over and over. Conversations about these bolded lines use the bulleted points. Good luck parents!
Life is hard, and this is likely the hardest phase in your life.
- You will learn how people can judge, hate, objectify, conform and discriminate because they are fearful
- Expectations just to maintain your status seem overwhelming
- You are still young and want to grow at your own pace and be imperfect without all the stress
You have one primary job in life: be your best self irrespective of circumstances.
- Inauthentic living is not living, it’s a big act in a stupid game. Authentic living will always feel the best, even when it’s difficult, because you are being who you are
- Being yourself helps others who struggle by being a compassionate role model and safe harbor
- Difficult times teach great strength, resilience and perseverance
It gets much easier when you move past this teenaged pressure cooker.
- The adult world isn’t perfect, but the social pressure will not be in your face 24/7
- Your life and relationships will be more meaningful and honour and explore all of your being
- You will know the silliness of teenaged life and live a life of joy, confidence and lightness
